Book review – My Spiritual Psychology by BK Jayasimha
“The quality of your Life depends on the quality of thoughts! Thoughts lead to feelings that fuels emotions, which defines attitudes and that, drives Behaviors, which finally become Convictions…
“Taking personal responsibility for our thoughts, feelings, emotions, habits and actions is the first key to becoming the architects of our own life. For this to happen, we need to be free thinkers and for that to happen we need to operate from the space of acceptance!”
In his first book, the author urges a top-down approach or a reverse order which requires one to heal the spirit first, and the mind by becoming emotionally competent and on the journey, take the temple that is your body along.” In the second book, the focus is more on the emotional aspects.
Each one of us is governed by a plethora of emotions which in turn has a bearing on our decisions and our life. Emotions can be seen as e-motions or energy in motion. Emotional Intelligence no doubt then becomes a crucial tool to deal with life situations. In order to facilitate this idea, author BK Jayasimha in his second book offers an insight on using Emotional Intelligence along with Spiritual Intelligence in combination with a holistic approach to situations.
What is Spiritual Psychology? The first chapter of the book is devoted to explaining this concept. A great deal of effort is spent in establishing the foundational aspects – Thoughts, feelings, emotions and Emotional Intelligence – in the very next chapter. The reader has to be equally patient with this section. There are smaller concepts here that make for the coherent whole. It can shake the cluttered mind and and offer quite a bit to ponder over. For instance, setting aside “drama” from the “story” in a given situation or to start thinking about steering away from the “copy-cat civilization” or just being aware of the brain’s “open-loop” system and how it is wired to pick up clues in the most innate and speedy manner. The section on emotional aspect extends to cover not only the emotional self-awareness but also awareness of others. The following chapters disparate as they may look offer better understanding of areas we think we already know. Intuition, empathy and compassion are brought to the fore while offering some newer perspectives. How often we discuss issues such as Relationship quotient or read about stress quotient but have we ever been able to give a fillip to situations revolving around these? That’s perhaps because we are never able to think of them in terms of trust span or asking/giving help. For that matter we can never sit ourselves down to building stuff like resilience and flexibility when confronted with the stress quotient.
In the final chapter, a few renewal mechanisms such a yoga (with certain myths busted), PMR (Progressive Muscle Relaxation) techniques, visualizations and affirmations serve as the practical guides.
A sample EI survey is provide at the end of the book for readers to get a fair idea of how they measure in this area.
In comparison to the first book, this one may seem a little tedious to keep up with. Mark this as a slow read and make some notes while on the go.
This Book Review is in collaboration with Red Communications, Bengaluru.